We have been hearing a lot about slut-shaming in the media lately. What is labeling a person as a slut? The act of making a woman or girl feel inferior or guilty for her sexual behavior, social situation or clothing because it deviates from traditional societal expectations is called slut shaming.
I hate slut shaming. It’s when a person slaps the scarlet letter “S” on a woman, or girl to define her as having so little intellectual worth that they label her as a person who must use their body or sex for public adulation, i.e. dressing like a whore, sounding trashy, and having sex. Slut shaming is what people do a female when they don’t want to deal with a deeper issue that reveals something about themselves.
If you watch Atlanta Housewives, follow the Amber Rose, Khloe Kardashian and Kanye West banter, and many comments on social media you are well aware that we use slut shaming as a way to silence a woman. Slut, whore, hoe, tramp, THOT are labels we have all heard and probably said. An attack toward a female is always to stop her in her tracks and stifle her voice. Why does society label women as sluts and whores? Because it works. Women are so scared to be labeled as a bitch, a hoe, or a slut we bite our tongues. We also use slut shaming to keep a person in the group we think they belong to. The snobs, the poor folks, ghetto are all pushed toward slut labels as a form of bias.
In an Armstrong and Hamilton 2004 college slut-shaming study the women had different conceptions of what constituted a campus slut, with the low-status women pinning sluttiness on “rich bitches in sororities,” and the high-status women aligning sluttiness with women they perceived as “trashy,” not “classy.”
We can look at the current slut-shaming fights in Hollywood. Amber Rose verses Kloe Kardashian Twitter war is an example. The 30 showers Kanye West said he had to take after being with former stripper, Amber Rose, just to date and marry wealthier Kim Kardashian, top selling sex video personality. Have we heard anything from Amber Rose’s Twitter account since? Keep in mind Amber Rose only stated her dismay about a twenty-five year old man dating a minor aged Kardashian.
I write this piece to not point fingers. I want all of us to look at how we ingroup, shame, and mute each other.