I am the eternal optimist. I wear my rose-colored glasses with pride. Any challenge that confronts me I say, “I can do this,” not “how am I going to get this done.” So, when it comes to dating I’m the same way. If a guy makes it past 3-4 dates I am starting to fall in love. But, what if I started dating assuming I (or he) expired? This dating practice is what I call “Clooney’ed.” You know, as in George Clooney. George Clooney picks up a hot chick, dates her for about a year then when the expiration date hits she’s gone- kind of like old milk or bad eggs.
I know you’re thinking this sounds negative, but if you date a person that says he is not interested in marriage, kids, moving to your state, is moving out of your state, not stable (emotionally or financially), etc.- BAM! expiration date is on your relationship. It’s not going to last because you can’t change another person, besides this is not a romantic comedy where someone takes a leap of faith for love… this is real life.
Expiration dating is not bad as long as both parties are aware of the circumstances from the beginning. If not… well, a whole new can of worms opens up and possibly a can of whoop ass. I digress… Back to the topic… Dating with an expiration can give your mind the freedom to enjoy and savor the experience. Think about it. A man that likes to pop champagne at the beach and watch the sunset with you, but likes to date many women is not the one, but you can still enjoy the sunset and wine with him.
When I go to Magnolia’s Bakery I order my Blueberry Jamboree and take small bites. I savor the sweet cream cheese, fresh blueberries, rich graham cracker and almond crust. Yum! I know it is not going to last so I enjoy my moment with it. Dating a man for the experience rather than the big ring will open your mind to enjoy him instead of forcing a relationship to work. He may not be the one, he is just your version of Elisabetta Canalis.
’til next time, Hotties
Enjoy the week.